7 Important Things that Breast Cancer Taught Me

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Amid the yellows, golds, and oranges of the beautiful Autumn, glistens an unmistakable pink. It flows in fountains. It covers billboards and dons football uniforms on national television (not that I am watching NFL these days). It sprinkles through the congregations on Pink Sunday.

Before 2005, I was a thoughtful observer. When my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer that year, I became a spirited supporter, one who was angry at the disease and determined to see it eradicated. I wore pink on my bumper sticker. I wore pink t-shirts. I joined the fight, as one whose family member had been attacked by this disease.

Then in 2011, breast cancer knocked on my door personally. I was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer. Because of all the other cases of breast cancer on both sides of my family, I made the decision to have radical double mastectomies and, as a result, two reconstruction surgeries that year. The surgeries left me with a debilitating nerve pain illness that still affects my life every waking minute today.

Now pink is more than a color to me. It is a part of my signature. In addition to becoming a recurring theme of my wardrobe, I now wear it on my heart. I am a part of a pink sisterhood, one forever changed by breast cancer.

I am reminded daily of what breast cancer took from me. But, more importantly, I am reminded daily of what I have gained, of what it has taught me.

Things I have learned…

  1. Breast cancer can happen to anybody. One in every eight women is impacted by it at some point in her life. I had always thought it was one of those dreaded things that happened to other people. On June 8, 2011, I learned that it can and did happen to me. It took me and my family by surprise, but it did not take God by surprise. He met us right where our need was. He put His arms around us and has carried us through one day at a time.
  2. There were purposes for my breast cancer. God does not waste a single trial. The hardships that we face are for our good or for His glory. In the case of my diagnosis, it has been for both. The reasons are still unfolding today. Relationships made during that time are blossoming. One of those relationships has become a life-changing relationship for my youngest son.Only because I had breast cancer was it discovered that I had melanoma, which could have led to serious problems, even possibly my eventual death had it been left untreated. Further, because of my melanoma, I was able to recognize suspicious moles on my husband’s back, and encourage him to receive the treatment he needed before those turned to cancer. The more time that passes, the more God keeps revealing His deeper purposes. Some reasons I may not know until I get to Heaven, and then it won’t matter.
  3. I can help someone else because I have been through breast cancer. Praise God that I am now a seven-year survivor of breast cancer and melanoma! At five years, they say you have won your fight. I have rarely in my life been as happy, and thankful, as I was when I passed that mark. During these seven years, God has given me numerous opportunities to share with other women who are walking this journey, sometimes just to listen and understand. God comforts us so we can comfort others. This has been a precious gift to me as I have received the greatest blessing of all from these relationships.
  4. Beauty is not skin deep. I have learned in all of this what the beauty of a woman really is. Like many of my pink sisters who have also had surgery for breast cancer, I have felt very unattractive physically. Through this, God has reminded me that He has stamped His beauty on my heart, and neither cancer nor surgery can ever take that away from me. I am beautiful because I am His precious princess made in His image.
  5. The importance of spending more time with my family and friends. When faced with the possibility of having to tell my family goodbye, I gained a clearer focus of what was most important to me. Material things lessened in value. Time spent with family and friends became more precious. Never has a tomb stone read, “I wish I had worked more.”
  6. An increased sense of urgency to share the love of Jesus with others. Gratitude for God’s blessings through this storm and a second chance to be well have given me a greater desire to share with others about the most important thing, the saving grace and mercy of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
  7. God is faithful. I knew this before, but I learned it at a deeper level in the midst of this terrible storm called breast cancer. People can tell you God is faithful, but there is no lesson as powerful as living it. He is always faithful to His children, one day at a time. He still performs miracles. He still answers prayer. He restores broken bodies, broken spirits and broken hearts.

I have learned that when I cannot, He can.  And, not only that, I am so thankful that He does!

Dear Lord: Thank You for healing me of breast cancer, and for continuing to teach me its lessons even today. Please be with those who are currently suffering from this terrible disease. Bring them Your love, strength, peace, comfort and wisdom. Hold them closely in the palm of Your righteous hand and bring them healing. You are the Great Physician. Your Word says that You forgive all our sins, and heal all our diseases. Never let us forget that cancer begins with a little c, and Christ begins with a Big C. Amen

But He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on Him, and by His wounds we are healed. Isaiah 53:5

Please share your thoughts, comments and experiences to encourage our group. Thank you for reading and sharing my blogpost today. May God bless and comfort those who have been impacted by breast cancer—those who have dealt with it, those who are dealing with it now, and those who have lost loved ones to this terrible disease.

 

 

 

 

 

About Sharon Hawkins

Sharon Hawkins wants others to know that she is totally in love with Jesus. Through hardships, trials and blessings, she has learned that there is no end to His mercy, His grace and His faithfulness. There’s simply no better friend than Jesus. In 2008, she answered God’s calling to begin a Ministry called Grace in The Wilderness. She loves to encourage other people, and, through the Ministry’s Newsletters and Conferences, she and others are challenging women and teens to discover Christ in a new and deeper way, who they are in Him and His plan for their lives. She has been a business owner for the last twenty years. Five years ago, she learned about forgiveness at a new level with the betrayal of a close friend who embezzled from her business and was sent to prison. Sharon has experienced God’s incredible grace through adversity during breast cancer and melanoma diagnoses and multiple surgeries that have perpetuated a continuing painful nerve illness. Both cancers were stage 1 and she has now been cancer free for four years. Her cancer journey is chronicled at www.caringbridge.org/visit/sharonhawkins. Recently, she sold a large part of her business as God has prepared her to turn a page in her life and focus more on ministry. With God’s amazing provision and the support of her wonderful friends and family—husband, Scott, and sons, Taylor and Bradley, Sharon is, not only surviving her wilderness one day at a time, but finding that His grace is more than sufficient no matter what.

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7 Important Things that Breast Cancer Taught Me — 6 Comments

  1. So thankful for the miracles I have seen God perform in your life as well as my own. Sending this to a dear friend who is battling this HORRIBLE disease and needs a miracle. What man says is impossible is ALWAYS possible for my God.

    • You and I both know that our Big, Big God is a God of miracles! He has done so many in our lives that we cannot count them all. I am praying for your special friend, and will continue. God is able. I love you, friend!

  2. You will never know how much you helped me during my difficult time and even since. The 30th I have to go in for more tests because something has shown up in the other one. I take your bravery with me when I go. You are beautiful; your soul shines through. Thank you for sharing yourself so that others may receive comfort.

    • Oh, Jan, I am sorry to hear that you are having to go through more tests. I know that can be so scary. I will be praying that it will be nothing. God will hold you through this with His righteous right hand. We should meet again for one of our lunches soon. Please check your schedule and let me know what is good for you. I would love to see you! Love and prayers for you, my sweet friend!

  3. Sharon you are so strong! You always Amaze me! What a testimony! You are always encouraging someone on their journey!! God sure has a special plan for you!? I pray one day soon you will be pain free my friend! I love you!! Gods special blessings!!

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